Recently, Lisa Hayden said she wants to have kids and loves cooking. Sounds normal right?
Not to feminists.
What ensued was a storm of raging, indignant voices, almost all feminist, tweeting, posting, writing about how that single statement by Lisa Hayden, was somehow enough to drag all of femininity back to the dark ages.
You see there’s a deep rooted belief in the mind of every feminist that only ‘women'(who stick to their ideology that is) have suffered throughout history & now, It’s OK even if sometimes in their pursuit for ‘equality ‘, they do get a little unfair in their evaluations. Men have had ‘power’for so long thanks to ‘patriarchy’ , that a little lack of logical reasoning is only legitimate in the feminist hemisphere.’
See I don’t get it! And you can’t blame me because it’s so blatantly hypocritical. No feminist protested the words of Hillary Clinton when she said “I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was to fulfill my profession, which I entered before my husband was in public life”
OR when Betty Friedan said “[Housewives] are mindless and thing-hungry…not people. [Housework] is peculiarly suited to the capacities of feeble-minded girls. [It] arrests their development at an infantile level, short of personal identity with an inevitably weak core of self…. [Housewives] are in as much danger as the millions who walked to their own death in the concentration camps.”
OR when Gloria Steinem said “No woman should be authorized to stay at home and raise her children. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one.”
They don’t bat an eye lid when a feminist says “Kill all men!”
But one interview from a little known star wife, who said “I am a housewife and wear that label with pride. Why can’t you be an accomplished homemaker? Accomplishing could mean anything one has their heart set on. I had a tough pregnancy, bringing Misha (her seven-month-old daughter) into this world. Now, I love being at home and spending time with my child. I don’t want to spend an hour with her and then rush to work. It’s not that I am not a woman of today. You don’t have to compromise on traditions and ideals to be modern. Why did I have her? She is not a puppy, you know. I want to be there for her as a mother; seeing her grow up cannot be quantified,”
was enough to break all chains of hell lose! Frankly, none of what the star wife said seemed illogical or offensive to me but to feminists, this was an extreme view and those of Gloria Steinem and the like are not!
Apparently, the advocates for ‘choice for women’ have taken it upon themselves to run other women down, who do not subscribe to their ideas and chose to adopt more traditional roles.
Radhika Vaz, a feminist comedian went on to write the following on Twitter
“The next bitch who says she’s not a feminist needs to pay dowry and then perform Sati. And be married off at age 11. And no school for you”.
Of course, there were interesting replies soon after, but those of us with a different viewpoint were accused of lacking a sense of humor.
The point is, not only was the tweet not funny, it wasn’t anywhere close to facts either because, none of the issues that she mentions were ever tackled by feminism. Feminism deals with important issues like freeing the nipple, internet censorship, trigger warning, slut shaming, demeaning women who choose traditional life styles, blaming men for all their problems, wanting a free pass in life etc etc where do they have the time to end child marriage or slavery, or women burning themselves on the pyre of a dead husband.
This is why, I’d like to point out to Radhika, and others like her holding up the ‘I need feminism because…’ placards, that I’m not a feminist because I know it’s not about equal rights but about absolute supremacy.
What started off as a movement to get women the right to vote and own property has long been hijacked by a group of radicals who cannot match you logic to logic, want to be able to get away with murder, literally so, and be called a victim all their life.
These feminists are not okay with men who are interested in what they earn, but wouldn’t marry a poor guy in a million years…
These are the kind of feminists, who have instigated the rise of the MGTOW or Men Going Their Own Way movement, thus attacking the family system, forcing men to shun chivalry while complaining about the dearth of good men in society.
True feminism must defend a woman’s right to choose at any cost. It must be left to the woman to choose to work or be a stay at home mum. Isn’t that what having a choice really means?
Like any social movement, timely reforms in ideology are both important and inevitable. It’s time now, to balance the act and glorify the choice of stay at home mothers just as supporting the ambitions of women joining the paid workforce. That’s the only way that feminism can get to retain the title of the eternal defender of women’s choices.